Despite the fact that I’d rather not comment on such a ridiculous discussion, I'm going to weigh in on this whole “mixed weight” drama that's been going on in the media recently. And yes, the pun was intentional.
Sigh. It's ridiculous really, have we not got better things to worry about in this day and age?
The other reason I don't really want to comment on this is because it seems so obvious to me that the whole thing is bullshit. Nobody has blinked an eye over the many, many, famous relationships where the man is heavier than the woman, but when its the other way, its suddenly unrealistic?
Again. Ridiculous.
This whole thing kicked off because of two fictional characters, Penelope Featherington and Colin Bridgerton. One looks short and plump and the other looks tall and thin. I'd be interested to know what each of them actually weigh because I think we might find that there's not much difference in their weight at all.
They just look different.
So fucking what!?!
Really, who cares? I'll tell you who cares. People who have got nothing better to do than make a big deal of something that doesn't matter. Whether its to make money, draw attention to themselves, garner acceptance from other shallow twits, or just generally piss other people off.
I too, am proud to call myself a member of the perfect breasts community and I too, am in a “mixed weight” relationship. But, I think you'll find that this is the least interesting part of me and us as a couple.
And quite frankly, if you like to spend any amount of time, at all, thinking about the logistics of this “mixed weight” relationship, then you’ve got bigger issues, buster, and I suggest you see to them.
Also, I will continue to write “mixed weight” in quotation marks because I refuse to acknowledge that the phrase actually means something.
I'm not even going to start on whether or not Nicola Coughlin is plus-sized because again, what does it fucking matter?
And what about the fact that this story is set in a time when Penelope's figure was the norm and considered beautiful?
Ridiculous. Now the fat-shamers are rewriting history?
So, what has all this ranting got to do with managing Depression?
Apart from the fact that I felt like I needed to get all that off my chest, this kind of media bombardment of utter nonsense, feeds the demon that is Depression.
It reinforces that what matters in this world, is what we look like and if you look different from what society is currently claiming is acceptable, then you're all wrong and you must change yourself immediately.
The demon loves this kind of shit. When you're in the middle of an episode (of Depression, not Bridgerton) the demon will whisper this crap in your ear as proof of just one other way that you're all wrong. That you'll never be better and that you're a lost cause.
And then you see this reinforced all over the media.
Yes. Absolutely. We can stop reading this stuff, stop watching it, and stop paying any attention to it at all.
In an ideal world. In reality, its very difficult to avoid hearing and seeing what people are talking about. And I'm not sure we should avoid it. For some people with severe Depression and anxiety, the internet is their only source of connection with others or distraction from the crap going round and round in their head.
So, whats the solution?
The short answer is, if you see this stuff, switch off. You don't have to look at it and you certainly don't have to take it on board. Go for a walk in the sunshine instead, or read a book, or watch something thats guaranteed to make you laugh.
The longer answer is, we need to create a society where this crap doesn't even exist. One where we no longer even comment on how people look, because it simply doesn't matter. One where we are not taught that our ability to find a meaningful relationship is based on how much we weigh, or what we look like.
In my opinion, the most attractive thing about a man is his ability to make me laugh, I don't give a flying fuck what he looks like.
And I know, I KNOW, that I'm not the only one that thinks that way.
In this case, the best thing that could have happened when that first “mixed weight" article came out, was if it had been ignored. Essentially, given the attention it deserved.
None at all.
Maybe suggest that people stop watching the news. That's the strongest campaign against unity. Secondly, stop watching TV altogether. It's been 4 years now fore and I've never been happier in my life.